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Postby Matbow » Sat Jan 20, 2007 2:23 pm

I had a question I wanted to ask in the "Would you rather thread", but it's not a "would you rather question" so I thought I'd start a new thread!

So the rules are:

1) Ask a question for the next poster
2) You have to answer the question yourself first.
3) You can ask the same question again.

OK, me first:

Question
To the men - what's your favourite method to start-up a conversation with the opposite sex ie in a bar?

To the women - (you can answer the above or...) what's your preferred way for a guy to approach you?

My answer
This is cheesy, but a good ice breaker if you see someone in a bar and you're getting good "signals". It can crash and burn big style tho...

Me: Hi, I hope you don't mind me asking, but are you someone that can accept a sincere compliment?

Girl: Sure. [smile]

Me: Me too. Fire away.

Girl: Haha. Well, I like...[blah blah blah]

Me: Thanks, you know, I just had to come over here because [blah blah blah].... I'm Matt btw; can I get you a drink?

Girl: Sure...


Easy!
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Postby Matbow » Sun Jan 21, 2007 6:00 pm

So how come no-body told me we had a thread like this already?! :mrgreen:

http://blurbal.com/wilbursmith/viewtopi ... &start=200

I guess if even I can't remember all the threads here that must be a good thing right?!
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Postby Nefer » Sun Jan 21, 2007 6:45 pm

:lol: Definitely a good thing!
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Postby Rivaan » Sun Jan 21, 2007 9:01 pm

Well how about making this thread different? Like everybody that posts in this thread has to answer a certain question (the SAME question for all). Once the thread goes to the next page, whoever is the first poster of that page gets to ask the next question for everyone to answer, and so on.

It's a possible salvation for this thread! :lol:
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Postby Matbow » Mon Jan 22, 2007 7:06 am

Good idea, but I don't reckon anyone wants to answer my question!
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Postby Monsoon » Mon Jan 22, 2007 8:07 am

Rivaan wrote:Well how about making this thread different? Like everybody that posts in this thread has to answer a certain question (the SAME question for all). Once the thread goes to the next page, whoever is the first poster of that page gets to ask the next question for everyone to answer, and so on.

It's a possible salvation for this thread! :lol:


It is a good idea but the only way you know you are going to be the first post on a page is AFTER you have posted.


In answer to Mat's question:
I don't really do chat up lines as they don't sit well with my personality, plus the hardest bit about this sort of approach is the actual walk to get to the person you are going to initiate conversation with. Those 10 yards can seem like a mile!! Especially when she sees you coming and holds her head in her hands :roll: Is she doing that because she is nervous/embarrrased or because she doesn't want to know, it's hard to tell and it is suddenly a 2 mile walk to get there.
I find the best way for me is to try and get close to them in a natural situation such as slotting in next to them at the bar while you are both looking to be served and standing on there foot or they might even deliberatley stand on yours as has happened to me before. At least that way you automatically have something to talk about with a bit of humour in the situation, and if they don't find it funny then you know you are looking in the wrong place.
The bottom line for me is that i have to have that all knowing eye contact and the 'come on' signals in the first place.

This question remains open.
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Postby Rivaan » Mon Jan 22, 2007 9:29 am

Well to answer Matt's question:

I have never actually started a conversation with someone in a bar with any of those intentions :oops: Blame it on parents who are really strict about that whole dating thing :razz:

If I imagine myself in that situation though, I would be near the girl/woman already and I would first make eye contact for at least more than a second. Then I'd smile and warmly say "hi" (I've apparently got a nice smile :lol:). I'd pay attention to see if she was interested too, like if she genuinely smiles back and her body language.
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Postby Yakumo » Mon Jan 22, 2007 1:31 pm

After 19 years of happy marriage this is not exactly something that I have to think about.

In fact a friend of mine recently had his marriage break up after 25 years. To say he is lost is an understatement and conversations over coffee have inevitably led to the question such posed above.

My answer was of course vague as I dont have to think about it and his response was equally as vague as in he doesn't have a clue what to do about it because he didn't have to think about it 6 months ago and the previous 25 years.

Of course I see this does not exactly answer the question.

So how would I go about it.

Well at nearly 40 I guess the response will be quite different than the youngsters.

I perceive that I will go to a pub in the town, spot a nice looking lass and go and ask her if she wants a drink. Classic maybe but probably the best chat up line of them all!
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Postby Matbow » Mon Jan 22, 2007 3:47 pm

[b7] -ish

Being lost, confused and unsure how to meet members of the opposite sex isn't a phenomonon confined to just the middle aged divorcee's (sp?) these days - so I'd definately mention that to him that he's not alone. I remember reading an article on the BBC that basically said that many young professionals are working such long hours they aren't getting the chance to socialise and meet potential partners.

A lot of people think that they'll meet their "soul mate" when they least expect it, I reckon this is true - but also I believe you can't expect to meet them if you don't put yourself in situations where it might happen. You can't just sit at home 24/7; you need to get yourself out there!

Getting back to your friend yakumo, I reckon the answer is Speed Dating! This is something that I'm actually doing myself in a few weeks; there's a group of us going (including a particularly hot girl :wink:) it should be fun! It's like I mentioned above, I doubt that I'll meet anyone, but if I don't put myself out there I'll never know!

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Postby Ada » Sun Mar 04, 2007 8:00 am

"Getting back to your friend yakumo, I reckon the answer is Speed Dating! This is something that I'm actually doing myself in a few weeks; there's a group of us going (including a particularly hot girl :wink:) it should be fun! It's like I mentioned above, I doubt that I'll meet anyone, but if I don't put myself out there I'll never know! "

Well I'll ask. Have you been yet? How'd it go? I'll bet I'm not the only one who's curious :wink: .

Was there \:D/ or do we need the :-({|= ?
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Postby Matbow » Sun Mar 04, 2007 8:59 am

Ada wrote:Was there \:D/ or do we need the :-({|= ?


Haha...we didn't go in the end!
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Postby Yakumo » Sun Mar 04, 2007 2:14 pm

What a waste Matbow. How can you succeed if you don't put yourself out there!
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Postby Rivaan » Sun Mar 04, 2007 11:55 pm

I reckon I'd meet my soulmate at the London MCM Expo (anime, games, sci-fi, robots). I'd definitely know we have something in common! ;)

Mat, if you're looking to meet someone, how about going somewhere that you like to go (related to an interest).

That reminds me, another possible place for me would be the library :)
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Postby Penitent » Mon Mar 05, 2007 11:18 am

Matbow wrote:A lot of people think that they'll meet their "soul mate" when they least expect it, I reckon this is true - but also I believe you can't expect to meet them if you don't put yourself in situations where it might happen. You can't just sit at home 24/7; you need to get yourself out there!
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Man, that is true, when you least expect it, when you are not out there looking for anything you won’t see it coming bur it will hit you square in the face. And you will know it’s for real when you cannot imagine what you have been doing with your life till that point.

I strongly believe that this will happen to everyone at least once in their lives. The right person for you it’s somewhere out there and when you least expect it he/she will cross paths with you.

In my case she walked into my life twelve years ago, we have been together ever since and happily married for the last five years. We have traveled the world and we know that as long as we stay together no matter what life throws at us the best is always yet to come
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Postby John R » Mon Mar 05, 2007 12:59 pm

That was really nice to read Penitent. And I also believe in that, when u least expect it, bang!
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